Tuesday, August 10, 2010

How to tell if he's cheating?

My husband and I have been together almost 3 years. Last year I caught him trying to hook up with a girl he met online, but he admitted to it and it stopped. Lately he has been very cold toward me, not wanting sex, disappearing at random and going out with his brother and his brother's girlfriends without telling me/behind my back. Do you think he's cheating, or just being a dick?How to tell if he's cheating?
It's definitely both. Follow your inner gut you can tell...but it sounds to me like he's cheating and that he's a giant dick because you don't deserve that. Leave him lolHow to tell if he's cheating?
That sounds like all the signs of cheating. Do you need more proof? Try following him when he takes off, have a friend follow him or hire a detective.
If he's not cheating, he's looking for someone to cheat with. Sounds like a dick to me.
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he's cheating.
well its possible hes both =)
Well it seems like he lossed interest in you which is common for some man when they get bored and want to try something new. Honestly it's a hard situation to tell I know that if he tried to cheat on you once then he'll probably try again. My best answer is he's probably both. What you could do is talk to him in a nice calm way. Let him know that you want get mad you just need to know the truth because he at least owes you that much. And what you could also do is pray. Pray that God will make your marriage work. I wish you the best of luck and I truly hope you guys work it out :)
Well, he is not a dick because that is part of a man. A man is secure in himself and loves the one that loves him.
you already know he is. when a man starts develouping feelings for his mistress he always starts blowing off his wife and dismissing her feelings. you already know he is, you can tell by how he's behaving. if you're asking this for us to validate your suspicions, then here you go.
Wow. Well, he's definately a ';dick';...and perhaps he's a cheater too. I can't imagine that this behavior of his just started...I'm assuming he was the same during your courtship, and you married him anyway. If that's true, then well, he isn't going to change...well, he will long enough to have you stay..and then the ole behavior will be baaacccckkk. It's like a hole in their personality. It's who they are. What a waste of time...haven't you been watching the info on Sandra Bullock?%26gt; Doesn't anybody learn?? Do like I did....take your ring,......slide it off....throw it at him...leave a nice dent in his forehead...you know, something to remember you by.. .and walk out, never to look back. I did it ten years ago...and these have been the best years of my life...WOOOOHOOOOO!! I have a wonderful boyfriend who has treated me like a QUEEN for years now. GOOOOOD LUCK!!
babygirl.......i have to be brutal and honest with you. if you caught him trying to hook up with someone last year....then the proof is in the pudding. he is capable of cheating......will cheat....and has been cheating. in my book a man is innocent until proven guilty.......but if they are found guilty once....they are always more than likely going to be found guilty again. especially if hes purposely pushing you away. this is a BIG RED FLAG in your face saying GIRL SUMTHIN IS UP! i would definitely sit my man down maybe over some cocktails and tell him that we are going to have an ';all cards on the table'; talk. ask him if he wants in or out. tell him how you feel. dont argue just talk. dont get up until you have some answers.





ps i just wanted too add....dont be desperate. if he really loves you he will tell you the truth...but if you know in your heart and spirit that he's lying...then dont be like some women and just let it go. you have to make the ultimate decision....do you want to stay and pray your marriage through this...or do you want to leave and begin a new life. neither option is right or wrong.
Both!
both, hes giving SOME cheating signs.. :/ try snooping %26amp;be nosy..


but who knows?..
He is undeniably categorically 100% cheating on you I know because that is exactly how my husband treated me when he was cheating. First you realize something isn't quite right with him he jumps on everything you say. Then he becomes down right nasty towards you he goes out right from work and comes home when ever he feels like it.He is now going out with his friends without include you when you say I want to go out with you he gets all mad and says then I just won't go out. You then get mad at him and he goes out without you anyways. He makes you feel undesirable no matter how good you look. In bed he makes you feel like you have leprosy he pulls away if any part of your body touches his. You realize that your lossing him and there isn't a damn thing you can do about it. Does any of this sound familiar ?
How terrible for you. Start fixing yourself up. Not for him though! Go to the gym, buy some clothes (including a work-out outfit), get your hair done at one of those quick cuts occasionally (wash your hair and have them just give you a quick style). Treat yourself good! You want him to think you're having an affair. Act carefree and excited. If he doesn't notice these types of changes...he's not interested.
Ask him. If he says yes, then question answered. But if he denies and you are still suspecting, then he is cheating.





Ask your self if you will let yourself to be cheated over and over again. If yes, then that's fine. But if your answer is no, then walk away from your marriage. Do not try to make him faithful because he will never be.





Do not let anybody affect your capacity to trust.
check his cell phone and text messages, check credit card bills, monitor the mileage on his car
I think you may want to heed the writing on the wall!


Do you want to spend your life with this guy checking and suspicious - and being treated without regard or respect?


Move on, you deserve better!
In order to be honest, I shall say that the only person who can answer that question is you. If I were you, I would rent a car, put on a disguise (wig, etc), and follow where he goes in one of his escapades. Then, I would be able to find out. So far, he has lied...so how can you trust him? First of all, what kind of faithful husband tries to hook up with someone on line or goes behind his wife's back to other places with other women? Either you are blind or choose to be it. Don't take me wrong, I am on your side! But, you need to get to the bottom of this. If he loves you, he will seek help for whatever problem he is going through and you will give support to him to see if things improve. Marriage is not a joke and you should try to work it out. However, if he is cheating and doesn't wish to change (or proves he won't change), then you need to think clearly and carefully because you deserve better. Don't be his doormat. Give yourself respect!! Good luck! And, if you find him cheating, don't make a scene. Don't get violent or rude. Remember, you have class and self-respect. It is his loss, not yours.

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