Friday, August 20, 2010

How far can you go until its considered cheating?

i have a gf but i also have alot of friends that are girls. i dont want my gf to think im cheating on her. so what would cheating start at?How far can you go until its considered cheating?
It really depends on her stands on it. Some people just sex is cheating, others think kissing, and there are people who think just fantasizing about someone else is cheating. Talk to her and ask her. Tell her why you're wondering so she doesn't think you're up to something.How far can you go until its considered cheating?
Technically cheating can be considered a lot of things depending on the person you ask. It can be what most of us call cheating when the other person is physical with the opposite sex, i.e, sex, kissing(anywhere), anything sexual in nature. But then there is the more subtle version of cheating in what is commonly referred to as an emotional affair, where the other person is in love with someone else and may or may not be having sex with them. It's almost impossible to have a 100% platonic relationship with someone of the opposite sex. At one point or another someone is going to have either sexual or love thoughts of that person and may or may not act on it.


You have a lot of female friends, ask yourself have you ever had any ';thoughts'; of one of them? If it makes you gf uncomfortable to be around other girls, I would try and make some sort of compromise for her if you truly love her or want to keep her around. How would you feel if she hung out with a bunch of dudes or talked to them a lot? Probably a thought you'd rather not have I bet. My best advise is to put yourself in your gf's shoes and ask yourself if you would want that done to you. At that point I think you can gain some perspective on what is and is not cheating based on your relationships dynamics.
if you develop feelings for another girl then you should end it. its not fair to your gf to stay with her if you like someone else. dont hang out with a girl one on one, that is frowned upon. make sure your spending the most time with your gf. dont give her any reason to suspect or distrust you.
If it's anything that you would not be willing to tell her you've done or can't justify and would hurt her feelings, I would consider that cheating. Kissing, sleeping with someone else etc is cheating. Flirting a bit is ok to me.

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