Tuesday, August 10, 2010

How do you recover from discovering that your husband is cheating with a man?

My husband has been having sex with men. He denied it because he thinks I did not have proof. Now he is given me the cold shoulder. I am not angry anymore God has given me peace. I just did not want to be lied to anymore. Now I need to recover.How do you recover from discovering that your husband is cheating with a man?
From what I have heard (listening to Oprah and Dr. Phil), when there is an infidelity in a marriage (man or woman) the one thing that helps is counseling. So, try counseling.





The peace you have from God is good. However, there is additional healing necessary.





There are many issues and discussions to be had.





So, try counseling.





Peace.How do you recover from discovering that your husband is cheating with a man?
You just have to move on. Your husband has probably been hiding his sexuality because he was ashamed of it. Usually I would say you should be encouraging of him coming to terms with his sexuality, but he cheated, lied about it, and is still in denial. He doesn't deserve any sympathy. You just need to realize that you deserve better than him and if he's married and still in the closet then he's obviously a coward and you can do way better than him. You need to leave him, because if he's gay then no matter what he says he's never gonna love you. He's going to love men.





Move on. Find someone better, someone who's real, honest, and won't break your heart. Someone who actually loves you and deserves to be with you. But I'd say take a break before you start looking for a new hubby. Take some time for yourself, learn to be independent and single. Don't rush into finding a new man, when the right one comes along, you'll know it.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that, that's a tough one. I haven't been in your shoes, so I don't really know. You don't say if you left him or not, but I think that would be the first step. You also don't say if he's gay or ';just'; bisexual, but I don't think this is the kind of thing you can move past in a relationship. Bottom line, he cheated. The fact that it was with a man only adds insult to injury.


I don't know what it feels like to be cheated on with a guy, but I do know what it is like to look back and feel that your whole relationship was a lie. You need to allow yourself to grieve and cry for a while. But don't hide from the world though. Go out or invite some girl friends over for pizza and a movie, don't let yourself go, find a hobby (this one really helps, having a new interest will take your mind of it). Crying it out is an important step to recovery. You can't try to move on too fast (you'd only be fooling yourself). Time is a great enemy but an even greater friend, and things WILL get better. You have faith in God, that's good. What you need to do is try not to lose faith in humanity.


Try to accept it, and eventually you will let it go. Also, do not blame yourself. It was not your fault in any way. You will remember it for the rest of your life, but one day you'll look back and it won't hurt anymore. The best thing you can do for yourself is not letting it turn you into a bitter person. Take it as a lesson, as a step back. Leave it in the past and don't let it affect your future. Good luck!
Much depend on how deep is your love with your husband.Do you have children? Are you independent? Can you survive without him? If all answer points to positive, then just let go.


You must understand that your husband in living in his own whole despite been married to you.


If you think that you can be part of his life or willing to accept his way of life, let it be. If not, just


get out of this marriage. You might come across your mr. right later.By then you will not regrett for not leaving him earlier.Ask yourself first, is this kind of married life ok with you.? Life is short and sweet. Don't choose the sour one if you have the chance.
By recover, I hope you mean leaving him and finding a guy who is not gay. You do realize he is gay right? I had a friend who married a woman, had two kids with her, and hid that he was gay for over ten years of marriage. He finally confessed and left her for a man. She got remarried to a great guy. You can find someone right for you too.
There is a tremendous amount of hidden mind manipulation within many sexual presentations disguised as regular sexual attraction. Becoming familiar with them and the methods to free oneself from these unwanted intrusive elements is important. They are written in the book which I mention in the below sources section.





in addition I have a yahoo group on sexual addiction at:


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it has nothing to do with you, he is under the influence of mind manipulation.
you need to move him out and get on with your life. I don't know how you recover, it will take time. How about starting a new adult education course or something similar. Community involvement or volunteering always puts a good perspective into your head. Good luck. Oh yes, sue the crap out of him for being a lyer.
With a divorce--you don't know what kind of diseases he could be bringing home to you!! I would definitely not let him touch me without protection--I mean a full-body-condom!! Also I hate to be the one to tell you this, but you need to go to a doctor %26amp; be checked for STDs as soon as possible!! (Believe me, I've been there!)
Seek God...ask him to help you recover put all your trust in him w/no doubts and he sure will help you get through it in a lovely matter because God is love...leave your burdens to him for he will take care of them...God bless


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idk how u will recover from such a thing but if u think about it this way ur husband is happer this way nd he only denied it coz he didnt kno he wuld get ur aproval nd he didnt want u 2 think he is any less of a man by sleeping with otha guys





gud luk
With a divorce--you don't know what kind of diseases he could be bringing home to you!!
That sucks
idk sorry
don't know, that sucks You're better off without him

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