Monday, August 16, 2010

How can you keep your husband from cheating?

What are some things you can do to TRY to stop him from cheating? There must be something that would keep him from cheating.How can you keep your husband from cheating?
marry a man with morals for pete's sake instead of a thug punk bastard.How can you keep your husband from cheating?
I've heard it said that ';how you catch 'em is how you keep 'em';... so I agree with those who say that if you pick a man with strong morals, someone of high integrity, someone who is not selfish and who thinks of others and not just himself, then your chances of dealing with infidelity will be drastically reduced.





But I also think that even the best men can be tempted... so although it is not a wife's JOB to KEEP her husband from cheating, it will make the marriage better if both spouses - not just the wife -


-takes care of themselves physically, as best as they can


-doesn't take their spouse for granted


-doesn't withhold sex out of bitterness or meanness, but also doesn't expect the other person to be a sex machine


-is open to their spouse's sexual needs, and willing to try new things within reason


-refrains from insulting their spouse, or nagging, or belittling them, especially in public - as that is especially humiliating


-doesn't make it impossible for the other person to feel loved, accepted, wanted, desired, or validated - but gives compliments, affirmation, and physical affection


-establishes very clear boundaries of what is and is NOT acceptable behavior with people of the opposite sex
So I know I'm going against every feminist code by not responding with the obligatory ';It's not my job to keep him from cheating.'; But I do know that there are ways to drive him away. Avoid doing that by not nagging him. That's not to say you shouldn't let him know when you need him to do something for you. But sit down and communicate. Be sure to let him know he is still the object of your desires. This doesn't mean just agreeing every time he wants to go. You should initiate it yourself at times. Try to cook for him sometimes. Just make sure he knows that you want to take care of him and keep him happy. All of that being said he should make the exact same efforts for you. If he is not then the relationship is not equal.
If you choose wisely, this will never be an issue. You have to find a guy with morals,


character, honesty, and integrity. If you don't find one like this, there's nothing


you can do to stop someone from cheating if they want to, they will, no matter what you


do or say.
keep things exciting in sex, in your sexy under wear, in dinner, in your day to day job, in your stories. keep things DIFFERENT.


the more things get into a repetitive cycle the more people get bored and get wondering eyes.





dont be afraid to show him that you love him and appreciate him by making a special dinner, by buying him tickets to a game and going with him, by throwing him a party, give him a gift that he really wants or has special meaning.





the more it seems you have to do in your day that dosnt revolve around your husband,kids, or home the more interesting you will seem. not saying your not,lol. just bring home some interesting things to talk about and sound excited to share. and ask your husband about his day, support him, let him vent.





and finally, keep all lines of communication open. late at night before you two go to bed, lay on the couch together cuddling, or in bed, where ever,just ask random questions. let him know that you have no specific goal in asking all the questions so he dosnt get defensive. you can keep it sexual, you can keep it simple and flirty. its all up to you.








theres no garentee that your husband wont cheat but the more that he sees you as he did when you first met, or sees you as he did during your first years together the better for him, you and the relationship.
You can't. The decision to be faithful is HIS choice and his responsibility.





While it's always a choice to cheat, it doesn't usually come from out of the blue. Most of the time there are underlying relationship problems. So the thing to do is become very good at conflict resolution within your marriage. Create an environment where both people feel like they can air their feelings and be heard, and that no matter how BAD the situation is, that the other partner will always listen and try to fix it.
Be careful with this! It should not be up to you to stop your husband from cheating, he made a commitment to you! If you do suspect that he is cheating Intelius offers a reverse phone look up service that can help you determine who he is calling. They are even offering a ';Tiger Ten Pack'; as a result of the recent Tiger Woods scandal. A couple of my friends have used it and it works!





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Good luck!
You marry a guy that loves you and one with morals. A guy cheats because he doesn't feel any connection, on any level with the person he's with (and this isn't the wife's fault). That or they like being pursued and like the attention. But guys have control over this and don't have to give in. There is no sure fire plan to keep a man faithful. But if he has morals and family values he won't do that to you. Marry for love, not money or connection.
you can't keep him from cheating. he has to want to. it is that simple. i have told my husband many times this would be the ultimate deal breaker in our relationship, so he knows that if he wants to cheat he will lose a family as a consequence. and as far as i know, it has not happened. ultimately it is the mans choice.
i shouldn't have to ';keep my husband from cheating.'; i'm a loyal wife, i do as i feel is expected from a wife... cook, clean, make him feel better after a rough day, take care of our daughter nonstop. i don't do anything special to keep him faithful i just married a man i knew wanted me and only me for the rest of his life.
But why would you want to do this? It's not in the job description of a wife to figure out ways to prevent her hound-dog hubby from reneging on his marriage vows.





Your only job is to figure out if you can live with it or not. I hope you pick the latter.
Pick one who isn't a creep! Guys who cheat often have what other guys would consider the perfect wife. You can have sex everyday, keep yourself looking hot, and fulfill fantasies for him but if he's a cheater he will cheat anyway.
Divorcing him. And finding another guy who has a conscience.
pick one with morals.
You can keep him from cheating by wearing seductive out fit,having sex every day,his favourit positions inc. Oral of course the full show.Cook his fav.meals.Constan. Tell him you love him so much. 1-Be a cook in the kitchen.2-Be a s¤¤¤t in the bedroom.3-Be a best friend around him.4-Always put him on a pedestal.Pamper him.

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